5. The art of bluffing
Here’s a great way to catch your narc in a lie: bluff. But you have to convince yourself that the things you’re saying really are true if you want this to work out.
Forget about getting tongue-twisted, avoiding eye contact, or getting sweaty palms. You have to look like you know exactly what you’re talking about.
Let’s imagine this scenario: you know that your narcissist is lying. But sadly, you have no solid proof for your claims.
How do you do it?
So if you confront them without anything to back up what you’re saying, you’ll lose before you even start. That’s why you have to perfect the art of bluffing and make them think that you’ve caught them in a lie.
It all depends on what they’re lying about.
You can always say that a mutual friend saw them doing something they shouldn’t have (make sure not to put the blame on anyone in particular; instead, tell them that you don’t want to reveal their identity and violate their trust).
You can say that you heard them talking on the phone about it or that you’ve been snooping through their phone and found evidence.
But here’s a pro tip: you don’t even have to know what the lie is about. It will be enough to tell them that you know exactly what they’re hiding (even though you have no clue) and that it would be better for them to spill it.
Their reaction will help you see what’s going on for real.
6. Narcissistic methods
Gaslighting, triangulation, silent treatment, stonewalling? I’m sure you’ve heard of each one of these tactics. To be exact, you’ve probably been subjected to all of them.
Well, now it’s time to turn the tables and use these tactics on your narc. Mirror your narcissist! Look, doing any of these things is not something you should be proud of.
And just because you use them on your narc doesn’t mean it’s okay to keep on using them in the outside world – unless you want to be just like them.
However, desperate times call for desperate measures. And this is one of those times.
So, the next time your narcissist lies to you, play with their mind a bit. You can choose between ignoring them, making them question their sanity, or making them jealous.
What’s important is that every time they try to deceive you, they see the consequence of their actions. Trust me, before you know it, they’ll understand what you’re doing, and they’ll learn their lesson.
7. Collect evidence in time
When you’re dealing with people who suffer from narcissism, you always have to be one step ahead of them. Of course, that is only possible from the moment you notice their red flags and accept that you’re dealing with a bad person.
If you’re trying to figure out how to trick a narcissist into telling the truth, you must begin acting before their next lie. When I say acting, I mean collecting evidence in time.
Yes, that includes snooping around on their phone and social media and even physically stalking them.
You have to be aware of one thing: narcissists lie, but they also cover up their lies amazingly. And they’re incredibly quick in doing so.
So, you have to collect evidence before confronting them because they’ll get rid of it as soon as you call them out on their actions.
Also, remain calm until you gather enough evidence. Start investigating the moment you begin suspecting they’re not telling the truth.
But don’t confront them right away because that will give them a better chance of getting away with their deceptions. Instead, let them think that they’re safe while you’re gathering more and more proof.
8. Lie back to them
Does your narc claim that lying isn’t such a big deal? How many times have you heard them saying that they did it to protect you or that they were white lies that don’t mean anything?
Well, how about giving them a taste of their own medicine? How about lying back to them when they least expect it?
Don’t worry about being too obvious about it. Your goal is to get caught eventually!
You want them to realize that you’re deceiving them without being able to do anything about it. They’ll probably confront you, and when that happens, just use the same manipulation tactics they do.
Stick to your version of the truth as if your life depends on it. They’re playing with your mental health, so why wouldn’t you do the same to them?
Of course, this doesn’t have to go on forever. You’ll just play along for a little while until they get the point and see how it really feels.
9. Never give up on the truth
This is something you should never forget when wondering how to trick a narcissist into telling the truth: you must never give up on the truth. And I really mean it!
If you’re a victim of narcissistic emotional abuse, you know exactly what I’m talking about. You two have been fighting for hours, and after a while, you’ve now had enough.
In the meantime, your narc has started calling you names, insulting you, and humiliating you in other ways. So, now, you just want to be done with all of it.
You know that they’re not telling the truth, but you’re ready to agree with anything they say just to make peace. They’ve sucked you dry, and you can’t take it anymore, so you end up being the one who apologizes.
In the end, you tell them that they’re not lying and that they’re absolutely right – you made a mistake. And that’s exactly what they were counting on.
They tried hard to ruin your self-esteem so you would end up feeling incapable of fighting them.
The moment you do this, you lose all of your credibility. In the future, every time you try to call a narc out on their lies, they’ll refer to this situation.
So, no matter what happens, always stick to the truth! If you think you can’t handle arguing with them, it’s better not to tackle the issue in the first place.
But if you open Pandora’s box, don’t close it until you get your way.
10. Always remain calm
