Being in a relationship these days is hard because people are afraid of bad relationships. Let’s face it – things are much different than they used to be. Societal values have changed dramatically, and technology has revolutionized the relationships (and not necessarily for the better).
Even worse, chivalry seems dead, but many modern women don’t mind since they feel more liberated than they did so many decades ago. That leaves men confused and women who like chivalry feeling missing out.
While all these modern-day changes may be suitable for human advancement, it’s not necessarily the best for relationship. You may have noticed this already, especially if you’re reading this article. People are confused when it comes to relationship – they’re afraid of a lousy relationship, but they’re also afraid of being alone, so they settle for someone who doesn’t meet their standards. This results in lots of relationship problems.
What keeps a person in a bad relationship?
Many people stay in toxic relationships for various reasons. They think being alone is worse, so they deal with unhappiness and abuse. Here are three reasons people stay in bad relationships.
You think there is no one better.
As mentioned before, being in relationship is hard. Finding someone compatible is like looking for a needle in a haystack. It’s so difficult that it can feel like there are no good prospects out there. When you feel this way, giving up a partner you’ve already snagged off the market can be scary, even if the person is unhappy in the relationship.
Thoughts of everything you have been through can be stifling. You may feel like finding yet another partner to create memories with is impossible. It may seem like so much work to do it all over again.
Going through the relationship process all over again can seem tedious, especially if you already think there aren’t good prospects. There is just no motivation to do better when you feel that there isn’t anyone better. You might give up on the idea of being in a happy relationship.
You must change this way of thinking if you’re ever going to be happy. It’s not easy, but you must believe someone is better out there.
Relationship coach Jordan Gray suggests that the best way to meet someone better is to be better. Work on improving yourself, and you’ll encounter someone better than your ex. Remember, you need to leave the current lousy partner as soon as possible because you’ll never find someone if you are stuck with the wrong one.
You feel that you don’t deserve better.
Perhaps you aren’t concerned that you can’t find someone better. It could be that you feel like you are unworthy of someone better. Clinical psychologist Suzanne Lachmann, Psy.D. says that feelings of not deserving better come from things that have happened in a person’s past that influence their outlook, or “in-look,” as Dr. Lachmann puts it.
Something in a person’s past makes them feel like they should be in a bad relationship. Another way to look at it is that something in their past also makes them afraid to be alone, so they stay with a lousy partner.
