It has always been like this: a woman would settle for a man who gives her less than what she deserves because she loves that man or out of fear.
Even today, we’re taught that it can’t always be rainbows and butterflies and everything nice, we’re taught that it’s OK to lower our expectations and settle for a man who isn’t putting enough effort into the relationship.
Well, let me be the one who will tell you that it’s not OK. It’s not fair toward yourself and all the effort you’re willing to put into his happiness. That’s why I’m giving you a few reminders on what to never settle for in a relationship, because you need to know your worth.
1. Conditional love
If you need to change yourself or do a certain thing that isn’t moral to you and never will be in order for your partner to love you, then that isn’t love.
Loving someone conditionally means that the person will most probably always find a thing or two about you to change and why would you want that? Find someone who will love you just the way you are.
2. Someone unambitious
If he’s not ambitious about his life, his goals, and dreams, or about your relationship, then I really don’t know what you’re doing with him. You should want someone who will conquer the entire world together with you and never be afraid to pursue his dreams to the fullest.
Be aware that if your partner is ambitious, you will most probably want to run after everything you want in your life because he will inspire you. That’s what you need.
3. Disrespect
We’ve all heard that respect is one of the main things in a healthy relationship, so why would you even try to make a relationship work if your partner doesn’t respect your values and your dreams?
If he doesn’t respect you for who you are and if he’s constantly telling you that what you believe in isn’t valid or isn’t worth fighting for, you don’t need him in your life. You deserve better.
4. Jealousy
You are a high-value woman who doesn’t even think about going out and flirting with other men or, God forbid, cheating on your boyfriend. So why settle for someone who is going to make your life harder with his accusations and lack of trust?
Jealousy is never OK; there’s trust or no relationship at all!
5. An open relationship
You see, the thing is, if we want to make monogamy a thing again, we need to take action.
Unless, of course, both you and your partner want the same thing and then it’s completely fine. But if you’re just scared of losing him and you convince yourself that you will be able to live with the fact that your partner is sleeping around with other women, then don’t do it.
Simply, don’t do it. Don’t settle for an open relationship if you’re not comfortable with it. Even if he threatens to leave you, let him go. He’s definitely not worthy of you.
